Saturday, April 21, 2007

Addressing Adults...

I'd really appreciate some feedback on this topic. What do you have your children call your friends? Michael and I have been talking/discussing this alot lately. I want Drew and Noah to learn to respect those of authority over them, so I'm thinking about changing to Mr. So-and-so and Mrs. So-and-so. Most of our friends here are addressed by their first names, and I'm beginning to rethink that. So what is your honest opinion?

13 comments:

Allison Davis said...

we have brennan address adults with mr and mrs and then their first name. like miss selena.

Anonymous said...

My friend John is the most polite gentleman on the planet. He still addresses adults as Allison says even if he is not talking to a kid. That being said I am always impressed when I meet a kid who calls me Mr. Daniel. Can't go wrong with either. You can always let them say "What up bra" to any male!

Thanks for the shout out on our engagement!

Andy

Rygal said...

Our kids address adults by Mr./Mrs. with their last name. The exception is if the person asks to be called by their first name in which it would be "Miss Selena" or Mr. Jacob."

It has helped them put together families by last name, and I think it shows more respect.

Just my $.02!

((HUG))

Lee said...

We obviously subscribe to the Gianossa philosophy.
Aunt Mandy Uncle Michael to our dearest friends are relatives.
Ms. Kim, Mr. Pete to anyone who is young enough to not want to be adresses by their last name.
And for everyone else it is Mrs....blah, blah, blah- I always make the call for the kids. But I have a 50 and over thumb rule in my mind, I think. It seems that in doubt I fall to the formal name.

I don't like them calling by first names one bit, either. :)

:) :) :)

The Jacksons said...

Okay, so down here in M-town, it seems that our friends are doing the Miss Lindley and Mr. Chad thing. I like that too, however, at this point, since Luke can't really say much, I'm still wishy washy. If it is easier for him to say Mandy, than Miss Mandy, I will work to get him to say that for now--but ultimately it will be the Miss and Mr. thing. I agree with the respect issues too!

The Smith Family said...

Out here is hawaii everyone is known and Auntie or Uncle.. so Cody will call all of the adults he knows as Auntie so and so or Uncle so and so but I think it's a great idea to just put Mr. or Mrs. before the persns first name.

karen said...

I think you should have them call adults other than relatives Mr. and Mrs. and the last name. I don't like children to call me by my first name. Mom

Lynnell said...

I tend to agree with some of the other posts that insist on Mr/ Mrs + last name. There is something to be said for the earlier eras when this was the policy. Children respected and understood authority at that time.

Anonymous said...

We do a combination. If it is a family friend, who we see often and on a social level, we go with first names. If it is a colleague of mine, or my husbands, it is Mr./Mrs. Last Name.

I think Mr./Mrs. First Name is ambiguous and leaves the child uncertain of what exactly the formality is used for.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous here again... I meant to add, if there is uncertainty, we always go formal: Mr./Mrs. Last Name

Allison Davis said...

So, what have y'all decided, Mandy?

Kelly said...

Mandy, Mandy, Mandy. First, let the adult decide what they want to be called. Second, as long as you set an example they will learn respect, so calling them by their first name would be ok. Quite frankly, if they called me Mrs. Norum, I would be insulted. I'm not my mother-in-law, nor do I want to be. The only parents I refer to as Mr & Mrs are yours because your mom gave me the evil eye the one time I slipped up (how that happened is still beyond me) and said Karen. Love you and miss you!

Kelly said...

Oh, and your mom's comment just proves the whole slip up incident.